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Why I Hate Email
Anyone who knows me would be shocked by the title of this post, since I tend to use email frequently, and am a pretty tech-happy person. Don't get me wrong, there are plenty of things I like about email - it's convenient, quick and provides a written record of what you've said. Sometimes you can even track if/when someone has read the message you sent. So I have plenty of good things to say about email. But the one thing I don't like about it is the way many people seem to use it as a means of avoiding the need to interact with the person on the other end.
Example - I was dumped through an email this weekend. Yes true it was not a serious relationship (far from it in fact) and we'd only had a couple dates, but I'm sorry after a couple months of dates and chatting I think I deserved more than an email from him. He had a perfectly valid reason - turns out the love of his life ex-girlfriend wants to give him another chance - but I think it was really cowardly of him to email me. He took the easy, non-confrontational way out, because he got to say everything he needed to say without having to deal with the difficulty of my reaction. Don't get me wrong, I wouldn't have had a meltdown :) but he didn't have to deal with knowing he hurt me. Because being rejected hurts, no matter how long or short a time you've known someone, or how much their reason has "nothing to do with you", or how many times they tell you you're "an amazing person who will find someone who deserves you". I know it can be hard to deal with hurting someone - nobody likes to know they made someone else feel bad. But making someone feel even worse so you don't have to deal with feeling badly at all, well that sucks.
Oh well, one down, a million more to go. There has to be somebody out there willing to put up with my crap :)
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Example - I was dumped through an email this weekend. Yes true it was not a serious relationship (far from it in fact) and we'd only had a couple dates, but I'm sorry after a couple months of dates and chatting I think I deserved more than an email from him. He had a perfectly valid reason - turns out the love of his life ex-girlfriend wants to give him another chance - but I think it was really cowardly of him to email me. He took the easy, non-confrontational way out, because he got to say everything he needed to say without having to deal with the difficulty of my reaction. Don't get me wrong, I wouldn't have had a meltdown :) but he didn't have to deal with knowing he hurt me. Because being rejected hurts, no matter how long or short a time you've known someone, or how much their reason has "nothing to do with you", or how many times they tell you you're "an amazing person who will find someone who deserves you". I know it can be hard to deal with hurting someone - nobody likes to know they made someone else feel bad. But making someone feel even worse so you don't have to deal with feeling badly at all, well that sucks.
Oh well, one down, a million more to go. There has to be somebody out there willing to put up with my crap :)
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